Exposing “Masculine” and “Feminine” Qualities

The definitions our society has attributed to masculinity and femininity widely contrast. In fact, they are the exact opposites. When we think of masculine we use words like dominant, strong, and independent. When we think of feminine we use words like submissive, frail, and dependent. While both women and men do contain a mixture of both of these qualities, for some reason it is only acceptable for men to be completely masculine and for women to be completely feminine. For this, we can blame society.

However, these words, these adjectives, are faulty. They shove men and women into tiny boxes, forcing them to “conform” to these ideals. One is to believe that a masculine man can take care of everything, provide for the family, and never cry, while a feminine woman is weak and must obey her husband or any other male authoritarians. Obviously, these are two extremes ranging from super human to helpless. But if we are to take these definitions so literally, as we generally do, we have to consider the extreme sides.

I have heard many people make the bold “statement” that masculine women are lesbians, and feminine men are gays. When such statements are made, at least to me, it is obvious that these reverse characteristics are meant to be taken as an insult and as an abnormality, which so happens to be considered wrong or disdainful. These claims may be made for various reasons, but the important part is that they are made at all. It appears to be a rather troublesome thing to be “different”, existing outside of societal ideas and/or normalities. It is not acceptable to set ourselves apart.

And although being feminine is an insult for men and women, women are at a disadvantage because masculinity is something they should never ever possess. If they adhere to their given roles as weak and submissive, they are inferior. (I mean, who wants to be told that they’re weak?) And if women are masculine, they are either lesbians (which is a bad thing apparently) or undesirable. Feminine men do appear to be at a certain disadvantage, but in the end, they are still men, men who own everything and rule the world.

To conclude, the terms masculine and feminine are absolutely ridiculous. We do not need to use these adjectives ever. They are insulting and absolutely useless. Humans are individuals. We are all inherently different and we all possess different qualities, regardless of sex or gender. We are unique. We have brains. We have entire thesauruses and dictionaries to provide us with more appropriate and accurate words to describe each and every individual we meet. There is no need to clump an entire gender into one “ideal” category. We’re better than that, or at least, I hope so.

*I decided to write this because of these comments that I have viewed recently:

[“Women aren’t supposed to be too strong. If women were strong, they’d be men (or lesbians).

What man in his right mind would want to have sex with another man? That’s gay. Therefore, women should be slightly submissive. It’s the essence of femininity.”

“A man wants to be with a woman who’s a woman – the type of feminine woman that is rapidly becoming extinct.”]

Well, boys, here’s a little tip:  If there is a vagina attached to her, there’s a good chance that she just might be woman.

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Daily Prompt: Pants On Fire|Lies of the Heart

When I was a little kid, I was a pathological liar. It was almost like I had a disease. For some reason, I could not stop lying. Every afternoon, when school let out, I would climb into my mother’s car and begin to tell her more of my creative fibs. As of recently, however, it is seldom that I lie. Apparently, I have become much too blunt of a person to hide my true sentiments. Go figure. Regardless of this, I still do lie. I am only human after all, as far I as I know.

The last lie that I have told, that I can actually remember, was when my friend asked me if I was mad at her, and I said no. What she had done to cause me to be mad at her was an act that was certainly forgivable, but only forgivable in time. I had still been in shock over what had happened and was still surprised that it had even occurred at all. I was hurt and angry and I wasn’t quite sure how to move on in our friendship. I wasn’t quite sure I wanted us to have a friendship anymore. So when she asked if I was mad at her, I lied. I told her that everything was fine and not to worry.

Part of me suspected that she just didn’t want to deal with the fact that someone on the planet Earth had a reason to dislike her, while another part of me suggested that she did not and could not understand why I would be mad in the first place. If I had, in fact, confessed that I was still mad at her, that might have just lead to even more conflict, which is what I was trying to avoid. I did not want to have to remember what had happened between us by having a heated argument about why I could not forgive her at the present time. It seemed hideously pointless to tell her the truth when she most certainly did not want the truth, but the answer that would reassure her that everything was alright. So, in effect, I gave her what she wanted. I gave her a lie.

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Another Very Inspiring Blogger Award

I never thought this would happen again so quickly, but I am honored to be presented with this award again, thanks to wadingblueheron. I started this blog one year ago, but it has only been fairly recently that I am starting feel a part of a great community. I love reading all of the many intriguing and inspiring posts that are available on WordPress, and I am glad that other bloggers have found my posts inspiring as well.

Rules

1. Thank the person who nominated you.

2. Add The One Lovely Blog Award / The Very Inspiring Blogger Award to your post.

3. Share 7 things about yourself.

4. Pass the award on to 10 nominees.

5. Include this set of rules.

6. Inform your nominees by posting a comment on their blogs.

Seven Person Facts

1. I’m not a vegetarian but I hate meat. I can’t eat a hamburger or a steak without feeling sick. I don’t mind poultry, but it’s not my go to food. I enjoy eating fish, though. I would label myself as pescetarian, but I don’t want to feel confined by that title.

2. I have a signed copy of The Fault In Our Stars by John Green.

3. I have a signed copy of Every Day by David Levithan.

4. Lately, I’ve been spending way too much time on the internet.

5. I refuse to do anything sort of manual labor….I’m only half kidding.

6. Will & Grace will forever be my favorite show. Friends is the runner up.

7. I have a mini library in my bedroom.

Ten Blogs That Inspire Me

1. Pin Up Picks Up Pen

2. My Journey of a Thousand Miles

3. Queer Landia

4. The Daily Norm

5. Chronically Femme

6. Take It From Meg

7. TimesrInteresting

8. Exiled Stardust

9. alexkellyoc

10. Coco J. Ginger

I would advise you to check out all of their wonderful blogs!

Has Social Media Changed How You View The Olympics?

Not at all. This week’s weekly writing challenge poll is a little strange, I have to admit. I honestly do not know many people who watch the Olympics, let alone care enough to blog about it. I mean it’s a good pass time, but it’s a sporting event, nonetheless, and I am more of an artistic person. There hasn’t been much talk of the Olympics on Facebook. The only thing I could find out was that the majority of people tend to favorite gymnasts, but there’s really no surprise there. Maybe 2012 is just not the year for social media and the Olympics to mesh.